![]() 12/09/2016 at 15:04 • Filed to: None | ![]() | ![]() |
Do you allow you SO unfettered access to your cell phone? My wife thinks it’s strange that she doesn’t know the code to my phone.
Me, I trust her, and do not care if I have the code for her phone, nor do I wish to look through her phone.
Edit: well it seems most married couples share their code, so I changed it and gave it to her. Thanks for the input :)
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Mrs comesover has code for my phone, but does not often use it.
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Mrs. Highlander has the access code to my phone and never uses it, I use here phone mainly to load her favorite apps or use google maps etc.... My kids however will play games on my phone until the battery is dead.
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My wife and I have had the same phone passcode since we got our first cell phones. That’s why they invented private browsing. But for us, it’s not a matter of “looking through” each other’s phone. It’s a matter of being able to use it if necessary.
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so she looks through your phone? or just uses it fo looking something up, etc?
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its a little strange to me. I don’t have a code on my phone though and neither does she.
I don’t let the kids play with our phones though.
I guess the question is why/why not?
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not that I’m browsing anything bad, she’s more interested in seeing who I’m talking to it seems
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My misses knows my phone code, but I have one because I have to for work email servers, not because I choose to.
She rarely uses my phone for anything anyway, but I don’t really have anything to hide. I hardly ever use hers either and it isn’t passcode protected. We’ve never been a “go through each others phone” kind of couple. As long as my browser history is clean idc. Even then. Meh.
![]() 12/09/2016 at 15:13 |
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My wife has probably forgotten mine, but I’d have no issues at all if she wanted it.
About the only thing I’d say no to is work laptop/phone, since that’s a fireable offense, and there’s not a darn thing she’d need from my work device that she can’t get from our own devices.
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for me, that’s just how it’s been in the past, but looking at the other replies, I may be the only one it seems.
I just figured we’re both allowed some privacy.
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Phones are like underwear. You usually don’t share them with your SO I think.
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My SO and I know each other’s codes, mostly so she can respond to texts for me while I’m driving if necessary, and until recently we only had Spotify on her phone so we’d both use it for that
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I had a code in mine and my SO never asked for it unless it was unavoidable. I don’t like looking through people’s phones, much less my SO, due to bad experiences. But at the same time, I never felt comfortable having my phone unlocked, as you mentioned I felt the need for some privacy - not that I was hiding anything. But eventually she knew the code and I knew her code. It never became a matter of secrecy.
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No one has access to any of my accounts - Email, computer, mobile device, etc.. Not even Mrs McMike. If it’s something we need to share, then we’ll create the account together.
I’m not hiding anything, but demand privacy in these areas.
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you’re missing out, theirs are so much more comfortable!
I kid I kid. I doubt they are much fun.
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She doesn’t look thru my phone, nor does she regularly use it, but if I’m driving and someone calls, she can unlock it, etc. And while she doesn’t look thru my phone, I would have no problem if she did. If she was doing so regularly with no reason to, we would need to talk about what she was looking for. On the flip side, if I was always unwilling for her to touch my phone, we’d need to talk about what I was worried about her finding.
![]() 12/09/2016 at 15:29 |
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I’m going to give her the code then. I have nothing to hide other then some favorited sexy pics on imgur lol. Thanks for your input!
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This is how I felt. For now I’ll let her see my phone, but not my PC.
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lol kids. “Where’s my phone?” “Here it is, Dad.” Looks at phone. 3% battery left. :/
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Same.
No codes, but it’s never out of my reach. Same for her. Kids’ have chromebooks if they want to do something.
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I think a larger discussion about the “why” behind both of your positions is warranted. She’s going to wonder why you won’t let her, and you’re wondering why she wants to. Working that out is more important.
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My personal phone has no code, but I’m required to have one on my work phone. I think my fiance’s used it while I was driving. He told me the other day that he set his codes to my birthday, that sweet clever man. We don’t “look through” each other’s stuff just for the sake of snooping around though.
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She’s had bad relationships in the past and is sometimes insecure, but we have had an awesome relationship. my feeling is I’m allowed some privacy, even if I’m doing nothing wrong.
I told her I changed the code to our anniversary, and if she wants to look, I’m fine with it, but she won’t find anything going on. She apologized and said she doesn’t want to look now, but I told her she can anytime. So we’re ok. Thank you!
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This is a double edged sword. If a person and their SO
really
trust each other, then there is no reason to restrict each other from their phones. By the same token, if a person and their SO
really
trust each other there should be no reason to exchange codes in order to go snooping.
That said, my wife has my code and a fingerprint and I have the same for hers. in case of emergency or so that we can use each others phones when necessary. If I found out that she was using that to go though my email/social media... I would be pissed almighty, and rightfully so.
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I happen to know the login to my girl’s MacBook but not her phone. She doesn’t know the login for my laptop or my phone. We know basically everything about eachother and we don’t have much privacy. My phone/laptop is the only real “private” thing I have and same with her. It works for us, but it may not be for everyone.
Reference - we’ve been together almost 6 years, lived together the whole time, and moved across the country twice together. Although we are not “married”.
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Glad to hear it worked out. That’s the thing...it wasn’t so much about the code, it was about what was behind the request. You keep working on the things behind the things*, and the rest will take care of themselves.
(*and no, that wasn’t a coded reference to butt stuff)
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My wife is welcome to any of my devices, she doesn’t know my phone/ipad codes mainly because she doesn’t care enough to remember them, but if she asks, I tell her.
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Same here, I just have the screen swipe.
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My girlfriend knows my code, I know hers. The worst things that happen are silly selfies and wayward Facebook statuses. I trust her completely with it.
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#dad life
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Jesus made incognito browser windows so that wives may have access to our phones.
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Anytime she wants. she doesn’t but she can. Neither of us care.
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I had an ex who would alway go through my phone when I slept. Not that I had anything to hide, but I know he was snooping because he didn’t trust me. And that hurt. So no, no one will ever get it again.
![]() 12/13/2016 at 02:29 |
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I’m not married, but shit no. Why would she want access to my phone? I don’t want access to hers. I don’t care who she’s been talking to or why.
In my experience when they go on your phone, it’s to snoop and find something to start a fight over.